Set Goals to win in life


“Half the battle is won if the way towards  achieving something is well defined and structured”

Some simple steps suggested are:

  • Be Specific– think with a great deal of focus and put in points what you goals are!
  • Allow yourself to Measure your achievement ..where have you reached in your journey towards achieving the goal
  • Its all good to dream high and big but you must set goals that are Attainable and Achievable . they must be something that you are capable of reaching
  • What is the Relevance of these goals in your life. Are they important to your existence? Are they relevant to your lifestyle? Will their attainment move you up your planned path?
  • How long have you given to yourself to achieve the goal.Have you set yourself any Time limit ?Also ensure

These are some of the SMART questions that you need to ask yourself before you set targets .Having a concrete plan of action leads to building of self confidence , be it a student or an adult. It is only the scope that changes. the actual way forward is the same for each and every one of us . There are bound to be hurdles in your path. Understanding and accepting them as challenges the first step towards achieving them .

Happy goal setting and achieving !!!!


Effective Parent teacher Communication- A Two Way Approach


Tips for teachers :

1.”Do not communicate only to complain but do give some positive strokes to your communication” there is some inherent good in every child

2.As a child centric facilitator always keeps in mind the importance of the communication as it impacts the home environment where the child  faces the parents on reaching home after the end of his day at school.When communicating with parents, consider your remarks in relation to the three categories that influence how parents participate.

  • Academics and other school activities.
  • Social interaction and accomplishments
  • The impact on the child.and how parents can help at home with their child’s learning

3. Try to understand the reasons for the child’s behaviour by getting  to know the background and analyse before jumping the proverbial gun.

  1. Be suggestive in your communication rather than authoritative .
  2. Respect the individuality of the child. Refrain tarring everyone with the same brush….in other work be different and deal one on one . Every child is different and responds differently to any given stimulus. Convey your concerns accordingly
  3. Initiate communication after a great deal of thought and avoid passing generic off the cuff comments as it puts off the parent and conveys casualness
  4. Be consistent on your communication – parents appreciate on going feed backs.
  5. Follow up is a must within in the given timelines- setting the ball rolling and catching up on measures take thereafter speaks of the teachers sincerity and keenness to solve related child issues.
  6. Be gentle yet firm and convey with conviction and yet be flexible to change your opinion after the interaction if required…you may not always be right.

Finally start your communication on a positive note……it lowers guards and makes the parent moe open to suggestions.

Tips for parents:

  1. Communicate appropriately to the teachers issues that are of concern to you at the beginning of the session…your child is in his/ her care for almost half the day.
  2. Maintain cordiality in the communication by respecting the teachers time and personal space.
  3. Words of genuine encouragement / praise work for the teachers as well as they do for the children.
  4. Be involved but refrain from going overboard. Very rarely will you find a teacher not being involved in your child’s growth and development.
  5. Trust the teachers for her inputs and yet be firm if convinced otherwise and be transparent- it is your child that is important and is very observant of the signals that he/ she absorbs.
  6. Share the child’s weaknesses and strengths both as you perceive them . It aids in the collaboration between the teacher’s agenda and lesson plans with the parent so that the skills being introduced in the classroom are being reinforced in the home environment.

Finally I would like to suggest some key words for effective parent teacher conferences:

  • Consistency
  • Collaboration
  • Trust
  • Transparency
  • Empathy

How we can try to become good parents….it’s no mean task.


Being a parent and a mentor to my own children and my students have led me to pen down my thoughts on how one can “TRY to become a good parent”.

1.Read to them….their horizons widen when you do.
2.Display affection….like a hug, a cuddle or two…it makes their day
3.Listen to your children … means the world to them
4.Set rituals like having dinner together , praying at bedtime, share the days experiences etc
5.Give them their space….it’s,good not to know everything
6.Let them make mistakes ….and learn from them.
7.Urge them to keep trying….making mistakes means they are doing just that…encourage them not to give up. Let them realise that you need to work for everything and nothing comes easy in life.
8.Do not preach….they will switch off.
9.Set concrete targets/ goals before them…they learn better that way.
10.Teach them to care. Set examples . They lean best by observation.
11.Do not over parent…..ease them into taking age appropriate tasks
12.Above all set some non negotiables.They will emerge and understand when you say and mean no.
Here’s to bringing up happy children

Bullying in schools


   What is bullying? Is it different from teasing? Teasing is done to irritate or provoke another person with constant comments and barbs. Bullying, on the other hand, is an imbalance of power. The distinct difference is that bullied students are unable to defend themselves, they are either insecure or lack the confidence to defend themselves against someone who they consider more powerful. It occurs in different forms such as threats, teasing, name calling, excluding, preventing others from going where they want or doing what they want, pushing, hitting, and all forms of physical violence It is one of the major school safety problems. Bullying affects students’ sense of security.

Bullying mostly occurs at school. It can occur in the following forms:

• Sexual harassment (e.g. Sexual abuse involving unwanted physical contact);

• Ridiculing and ostracizing

• Ragging(which of late has been strictly banned) Children subjected to bullying often suffer it for they are;

• Afraid of Retaliation.

• Fear that they would not be believed,

• Not confident that anything would change as a result,

• Think that their parents’ or teacher’s advice would make the problem worse,

• Afraid that people will call them tattlers   The students who witness feel the same. They all agree that bullying is wrong, but rarely intervene on behalf of the victim. They fear that they could become the next target.  In any bullying act, there is a victim, the ringleader, assistant bullies (they join in), enforcers (they provide an audience or laugh with or encourage the bully), outsiders (they stay away or take no sides), and defenders (they step in, stick up for or comfort the victim).   Bullying Behaviour There are some common symptoms despite country and cultural differences,  

• Bullying more often takes place at school.

• Girls tend to bully girls, while boys bully both boys and girls.

• Consistently, studies indicate that boys are more likely to bully than girls.

• Bullies often do not operate alone. Bullying does not end in elementary school. Middle school seems to provide ample opportunities for bullying, although at lesser rates. The same is true of the beginning years of high school.

• It continues up till early adolescent period of both boys and girls.  How can we prevent bullying  

• Keep communication channels open- Parents, school faculty and other adults should listen to the children and be available to talk to them.

• Be alert to symptoms of strange behaviour: as parents, teachers and adults you need to closely watch symptoms of withdrawal, disinterest or unwillingness to go to school and fear among children.

• Teach children to respect others : “Do unto others as you would have others to do unto you” sums it all up • Set school policies and rules : have a school mission statement “treat all with respect”….reward students who show respect for peers and adults

• Establish a clear reporting system for any violations.

• Have house meetings /classroom meetings(circle time) wherein good behaviour is appreciated and speak to the students about their conscience during such meetings. Talk about some case studies and get them to analyse behaviour.

• Monitor student’s body language and observe the reaction post discussion. Do a thorough follow up and help the students

• Form an anti bullying club and encourage students to confide in council members. Complete confidentiality should be maintained  

• The school counselor to be actively involved In all to sum up….. Bullying in schools can be prevented or at least marginalized initially and done away with completely if there is consistency in the approach.